Just finished watching an episode of Grey’s Anatomy. In a scene there was an unruly brother who is creating a huge fuss while the big sister was being checked out by the doctor.
The mom didn’t budge… but dad gave up and picked Tommy up… disapearing from that scene and out. Never returned.
That scene stuck to my mind. I haven’t seen an kid throwing a major fit. I tried remembering when my daughter had one, but frankly I couldn’t get to remember even a single “bomb”. She just didn’t.
Would I have loved to experience it? I’ll cross the bridge when I get there, but I certainly would like to see it soon. While I am still able to pick here up and disappear like the Grey’s anatomy dad.
They’ve listed several easy ways to get your child to behave — and WANT to.
Check this quick list out:
1. Build a stronger bond with your child – If you want your child to be more cooperative, change your focus from improving him to improving your relationship.
2. Be a booster – Whenever you can, let her accomplish as many small tasks as possible.
3. Stay cool – The key is to control yourself. Maintaining your composure instead of showing your frustration lets your out-of-control child “borrow” some of your calmness.
4. Try a little empathy – When you notice and accept your child’s feelings, it helps her handle the limits placed on her.
5. Blame the house – Such emotionally charged accusations as “Don’t ever let me hear you call your brother that again!” are more likely to provoke resistance than matter-of-fact comments like “Name-calling isn’t acceptable; our house rule says we treat everyone with respect.”
6. Use your “I” – Using “I” statements, tell your toddler what his actions do to you: “I get upset when I see you throwing food because I have to clean up the mess.”