Okay, this stuff is for mature readers only. So if you’re a girl still playing with your dolls or teddy bears, you may want to skip this. But if you’re really curious…
For guys who feel they’ve let down their bed mates because they came too quickly, don’t despair. Sex therapists in the US have found out it doesn’t take long to satisfy a woman in bed. Their findings will be published in the May 2008 issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, according to an Associated Press report this week.
In the surveys they conducted, the sex therapists found out that the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was just 3 to 13 minutes – a quickie indeed!
So what we’ve seen in those sex videos featuring extended sex scenes – as if the bunnies are powered by Energizer batteries – may not exactly be accurate.
The latest findings indicate that endurance is not really the key to a great sex life.
Oops, don’t celebrate yet, you quickie doers! According to the therapists, the 3 to 13 minutes optimum sex time does not include foreplay.
Researcher Eric Corty said prior research had shown that both men and women want foreplay and sexual intercourse to last longer.
Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes. In that study, women were required to wear stopwatches. Whew, just imagine 1,500 women looking at their watches while the action was going on.
It’s difficult for both older men and young men to make sexual intercourse last much longer, said Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist and director of Wellminds Wellbodies in Annapolis, Maryland.
“There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually,” Brandon said. “Most people’s sex lives are not as exciting as other people think they are.”
Well, my take here is time does not matter as long as the matter remains timeless – whatever that means!
Actually, what I’m trying to say is, one just have to give the best performance of his or her life if he or she considers his or her partner deserving to receive such performance – regardless of the time involved.
(Note on illustration above: Knowing their “deliberate” nature, turtles would not make a good case study for a research like this.)